Beauty is more than skin deep

Physical attraction is very important.  The basis to any relationship is physical attraction.  If you are not physicaly attracted to a person and they to you, then you can bet that all you will be is - Friends.  This may be unfair and you may hate it but it's true.  A person's personality will become important after you have established a physical attraction to them.

Physical attraction is definitely not the end all of relationships but it WILL determine whether you get that first date, that phone call, or even just a simple - "Hi, how are you doing?"  It also helps that when you take this person to meet your friends and family that they also find the person attractive - it pumps us up and makes us feel good about our selection.

Spritual connection, great conversation, mutual respect, and friendship are VERY important in any relationship but you will only get that far once it has been determined that the other person finds you attractive.  Beauty is in the eye of the beholder!!!

Why are women so desperate for a man?

Desperate for ANY man.  Many women will disagree with me on this because they will say that they are not desperate but yet I see the things they are willing to put up with and the things they will go through - all in the name of love.

Now don't get me wrong, I too have played the fool before but everyone must wake up and choose better the next time.  We must pay attention to those signs that we see when we first meet a man.  Those signs that gives us insight into his character.  The signs are always there - we CHOOSE to ignore them. 

I was listening to Michael Baisden the radio the other day and he was talking about how women give up the keys to their homes within weeks of meeting a man.  We are so quick to give of ourselves because we want that love and security that a relationship should provide.  What are these men offering as you hand over your keys?  A man should add to your home - not take away from it.

Women, we should have better standards for the kind of men we choose.  I am married but I remember when I was single and how I felt when I would get lonely.  I feel like women get tired of being alone and the club scene gets real old after a while and at the end of the day you want somebody to come home to.  It is beautiful but it also takes time.  We can't be in such a rush that we accept the first thing coming.  You have to pay attention and get to know this person.  How does he treat you, how does he treat his family, how does he treat other people?  What are his goals and aspirations, and has he acquired some of these things on his own?  Is he quick to anger?  Is he responsible with his finances?  These questions are important and if you ignore them - you WILL pay the cost.

To listen to the Michael Baisden show click here and then hit the play button http://www.michaelbaisden.com/tools/podcast/player.php?file=hump-day-wednesday/hdw_hr2_a_09022009.mp3&title=Hump%20Day%20Wednesday%20Hr%202%20%209.2.2009

Check this out

Here's an article that the person wanted me to read and then comment on:

http://www.ehow.com/how_5324437_improve-relationship-cheating-pt.html

Now what's funny about this article is that the writer honestly believes that this saved her relationship.  I beg to differ.  Two wrongs do not make a right.  Why should you lower yourself to get back at someone or how can you lower yourself?  This has to already be in this person and no matter who she is with, she will probably do this.

It's sad that grown women are handling themselves in this manner and these are the kind of women are young girls are looking at.  Women are supposed to be better than men.  We are supposed to have a level of repsect for ourselves that when we are not being treated the way we want, we don't lower our standards, we leave.

The writer of this article clearly has some growing to do.  She needs to take a break from men and find her true self and maybe she'll find her true worth.

How to become his wife

I just wrote another article and I am curious to see the comments. I am finding that some of my material may be conflicting to others opinions but it's okay. It's my opinion based upon my own experiences.

I decided to write this article because I know a few women that really want to be married to their significant other but for some reason or another, years have gone by, children have been born, they act like they are married but it's not official. I have looked at these relationships and wondered why do these women settle for this. In conversations they express their desire to be married and they have stated that they do not want to be with anyone else but this man. BUT, what are they sacrificing and giving up to just be with this person.

Sometimes we have to face reality and decide to move on. Women stop settling when you know what you want. On the flip side of this though, are you marriage material. Does this man see you as a wife? If he did, wouldn't you be his wife?

America's Family Prisons

There is a you tube video at the bottom of my blog I want you to check out. I cannot believe this is going on right here in America - what has happened to our country.

I agree with so many people that there should be something done about illegal immigration but I do not think this is the answer - after all - there are innocent children involved.

Give me feedback!!!

Raising responsible children

STOP being in a constant battle with your children. STOP yelling while saying the same thing over and over again. I have learned that when we do this, we are only wearing ourselves down and it's not beneficial to you or the child.You have to say what you mean and then follow with a consequence. You should only say something once, give the child a time limit for example "you have 30 minutes to clean your room." After the time limit, if the chore is still not completed then you give the consequence and don't bend. If the consequence is no TV the rest of the day then that means no TV the rest of the day. And by the way, you still expect the room to be cleaned.Children are very smart from a very early age and they know how to push your buttons and what they can get away with. I have 5 children. My husband and I do not make idle threats, we expect a certain behavior. We do allow our children to express their feelings to us and we listen, but at the end of the day, we make our decisions based on the best interest of our children.Do not let your children run over you. Say what you mean and then follow through with actions. Your children will grow up respecting you and others. All children need boundaries and they crave it, it shows you love them. Trust me, they may not say it now, but once they are grown, they will THANK YOU!!!

Articles on ehow

Check out my articles on ehow. I will be discussing some of the same topics on my blog that I have written about.

I welcome your comments and feedback. They are all based on my opinion and my journey in life. Your path may be different but the lesson learned could be the same.

I am all about improving myself. I hope you are too. Together we can share, laugh, cry, and then learn.

Let's discuss!!!